Sunday, March 23, 2008

SO MANY THINGS HAVE HAPPENED

When I wrote last it was on St. Patrick's Day. I cant believe that a whole year has gone by since my daughter has gotten married. She is still happily married and moving up in her company.

It is amazing to me that every so often she will call and let me know that - first she needed a new roof of her newly purchased town home. They found this out with a leak. They replaced the roof and then the next call was to inform me that they needed a new air conditioning unit-- it broke down in the middle of a heat wave. Months later they were away for the weekend and a pipe burst on the second floor and flooded the bottom two floors. The downstairs needed to be gutted and redone. Two days ago she call me and told me that there is a leak in the pipe that is right outside of their town home and they will need to dig up her front yard to replace that piece of pipe.

With each of these calls I tried very hard to explain to her that I understand how she feels - upset, frustrated, and stressed oh and dont forget broke with each venture. I have then tried to make all of the negatives in her life a positive. There are so many stresses out there and each and every individual can list at least 5 that they are currently under. There are many different forms of stresses but there are specifically 2 types that I concentrate on. There are those that you have no control over and there are those that you do have control over. All of the above stresses that she and her husband were going through-- she did not have any control over what happened BUT...She did have control over how she handled the situations.

When you are currently going through something there are times that you feel you have no control over it and how could you possible handle it. The best thing for you to do is find a level headed friend or loved one and talk about it. When you are currently going through a situation it will be very difficult to find a positive outcome. YOU and you alone can make the outcome positive. Life is too short to really stress about the little things.

My final words to my daughter the other day was WOW now you have a town home that you can get many many years of happiness living in. you now have A new roof, new pipes, the inside had to be redone so new paint, flooring, counter tops, and the front lawn you were not crazy about and now that can be redone too. Of course it all was very frustrating but stress plays many nasty tricks on the human body. she doesnt need high blood pressure, or for those that over eat when stressed weight gain, a lowered immune system, or headaches just to name a few. Again try real hard to find the positive in any situation and you will end up feeling better and yes down the line you will be able to actually laugh at it.

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